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Hype for the Future 86H: Fear of Judgment at Banquet Culture

Introduction When novaTopFlex becomes invited into or otherwise associated with banquet culture, the Three Identities each depend on standard experiences as well as outlying circumstances because of the deviations from tradition that have been quite obvious under the ideals of novaTopFlex. This post is an attempt to pinpoint the exact reasons for novaTopFlex to have a fear of banquet culture in the vast majority of standard forms: Historical Traditionally, the banquets were highly […]

https://novatopflex.wordpress.com/2026/01/25/hype-for-the-future-86h-fear-of-judgment-at-banquet-culture/

I just got an invite to my graduation and I decided I'm not going to go.

My oldest kid and my friends and my sister were all encouraging me to go, but... I just don't love events like this. And it's an extra trip to Perth, plus hiring a gown, and booking leave from work. I guess I would have to get something fancy (even if secondhand) to wear too, since my wardrobe consists of jeans, tshirts and hoodies, and really nothing else.

The reasons for going would all be good reasons if I weren't actually me, a person who doesn't like crowds of strangers, or having to mask and make small talk, or dressing up in fancy clothes.

Also, the relief at the realisation that I am choosing 'no' is kind of amazing. I will be just as thrilled - in fact, much more thrilled - to get my certificate in the post

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Hype for the Future 72E: Why novaTopFlex Fears Judgment at Prom

Preamble Not a single person can know for sure why the novaTop Identity is conflicted at prom culture. Maybe the situation is based on appearances? Judgment? Deception? Or maybe the entire novaTop experience is an optical illusion? But in all reality, the prom experience was a very high-stakes experience with a tradition of promoting coupledom, as with most of banquet culture at large. Introduction While “prom” culture is heavily derived from European banquet cultural traditions, the […]

https://novatopflex.wordpress.com/2026/01/11/hype-for-the-future-72e-why-novatopflex-fears-judgment-at-prom/

Downtown Raleigh After Work Event Guide Wednesday November 5th Edition

Clocked out and ready to unwind? Whether you’re looking for live music, cocktails, trivia, gaming, social mixers, or late-night karaoke, Downtown Raleigh has something for every vibe tonight.

Here’s your after-work guide to what’s happening across the city.

🎤 Nightlife & Music

Wednesday Karaoke at Neptunes!

9:00 PM – 2:00 AM

Neptunes Parlour

One of Raleigh’s longest-running and most beloved karaoke nights. Expect a crowd, supportive vibes, and some unforgettable performances.

Live Jazz with Al Strong and Friends

8:00 PM – Midnight

Boatman Spirits Co.

Warm lighting, cocktails, and world-class jazz—this is a true Raleigh Wednesday staple.

Live Music in the Bar

6:00 PM – 10:00 PM

Vidrio

A relaxed, stylish setting with great drinks and Mediterranean plates.

🍷 Cocktails, Classes & Networking

Wine Wednesdays at Sitti

11:00 AM – 10:00 PM

Sitti Authentic Lebanese Restaurant

A perfect spot for a midweek glass (or bottle) of wine and delicious Lebanese cuisine.

GSNC Mixer

5:30 PM – 7:30 PM

Soul Flavorscape of India

A community-centered networking mixer with great food and conversation.

Spiced Apple Old Fashioned Class

6:30 PM – 7:30 PM

Crude Bitters & The Bittery

Learn to craft a seasonal cocktail with expert guidance—perfect for date night or a solo skill-up.

🎮 Games, Trivia & Fun

Mario Kart World Tournament

8:00 PM – 11:00 PM

The Davie

Race, talk trash, claim victory. Big energy every week.

Trivia at the Brewery

7:00 PM – 9:30 PM

Incendiary Brewing Taproom

Crisp craft beer + trivia = a strong midweek combo.

Trivia Night

7:00 PM – 8:30 PM

Longleaf Swine

BBQ + brainpower. A win every time.

Wednesday Night Music Bingo

7:00 PM – 10:00 PM

Wolfe & Porter

Guess the songs, win prizes, enjoy the atmosphere.

🚲 Active Social

Wednesday Night Ride

6:30 PM – 9:30 PM

Crank Arm Brewing

Group bike ride rolling through the city, followed by brewery hang time. All experience levels welcome.

Explore More

Follow DoRaleigh.com for daily updates on government meetings, local festivals, and community happenings — your one-stop guide to everything Raleigh!

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A woman and a man are engaged in conversation, while others dance or mingle around them.
A notable figure in the scene appears to be dressed as a dog, adding an element of humor and eccentricity to the event.
Tags: Hollywood party, 1950s, celebrity guests, vintage, black and white photography, social events, lively atmosphere, well-dressed attendees, dance, conversation

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1959

The image is a black and white photograph capturing a lively social event in the 1950s, featuring well-dressed attendees and celebrities.
A woman and a man are engaged in conversation, while others dance or mingle around them.
A notable figure in the scene appears to be dressed as a dog, adding an element of humor and eccentricity to the event.
Tags: Hollywood party, 1950s, celebrity guests, vintage, black and white photography, social events, lively atmosphere, well-dressed attendees, dance, conversation

When Being Social Destroys You

This is the story of how a recent social event destroyed me.

Photo by Morgan Basham on Unsplash

I think my own unmasking as a voluntary aspect, and an involuntary one. For instance, I voluntarily stim in public, or leave events when I’ve had enough. However, I used to sleep full nights without any issue. I used to be reflux free. Yet, my sleep got progressively worse over the years, and I started getting reflux too. This involuntary unmasking started even before my cancer.

“Oh, but you don’t look autistic!”

If you are autistic, you know how much we love people to tell us that we don’t look the part of the autistic individual. No, we don’t have autistic tattooed on our forehead. Autism is mainly an internal condition that sometimes has an external manifestation. The fact that folks don’t see our internal condition does not make our autism any less troublesome.

Yesterday, I went to a monthly bi brunch. The place we usually went to is unavailable. So this event was held in a location I’m not very fond of. It is essentially a sports bar. As a sports bar, it is most likely a decent location, but I’m not into sports, so I don’t generally go to sports bars.

I had been there once before, for the same event. When I was there, one part of the bar was unusable due to ceiling issues. We ate in a part of the bar that is particularly awful for acoustics. Everything echoed pretty badly. There was also rather loud music playing. I had a hard time engaging in conversations. I vowed never to return, if I could help it.

Last month, the organizers decided to go to the same place. At that time, true to my vow, I decided to skip. I explained my reasoning to other people, but I did not come up with an alternate location. Being autistic, it is not like I tend to go out a lot. Oh, I do go out, but I tend to go to places that I already know.

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This month, I decided to go against my vow and to go again. I do like to see people, so I figured I’d grin and bear it. This time, the area of the bar that had been closed previously was actually opened, and we did eat there. Acoustically, this was a better deal than the other half of the bar. This aspect of the event was better than I had anticipated.

However, the food was still not what I was really looking for. Don’t get me wrong, the food I ordered tasted fine, but this food is fine for a sports bar. Sports bar food is not what I am after. The food, however, is not the only problem I experienced.

During the event, I felt totally fine. One of the organizers kept checking on me from time to time, and every time I answered truthfully that I was doing fine. The event coincided with the local pride parade, so people were asking me if I’d walk in the parade or watch it. I answered no to both questions, while still leaving open the idea that I’d watch it.

In retrospect, I’m bloody glad I did not walk, or even watch the parade. See, I was not fine, but I wouldn’t discover this until after I came back home. I was able to take the subway, and to drive myself from the subway station to my apartment. However, as soon as I entered my apartment, I crashed, hard. I spent the rest of the day fuzzy-headed. I took a 30-minute nap. It was helpful, but not enough.

Now, the day after, I’m trying to figure out what hammered me so much. I was at the brunch for maybe one hour 30 minutes. I’ve been to longer events before. Heck, the same group holds monthly bi board games, and I don’t typically come back hammered from those events. They easily last twice or three times as long as the time I spent at the bi brunch.

My top theory right now is that it is the combination of location, and having to socialize with an entire slew of newcomers that did me in. Some of them had been to the event before, but I had not met them. At any rate, this amounted to the same for me, since they were new to me. We were around 30 folks, if my math is accurate. There were a lot of conversations occurring all around me. My hearing ability is such that I easily get confused when there are too many conversations going all at once.

At first, I thought it was just the sheer number of people that did me in, but I don’t think so. I used to be able to go to conferences with many more people without any trouble. I’ve more recently been at events of easily over 100 people, without crashing afterwards. I think the difference is that at the conferences, and the recent events, I did not have to socialize. So it is having to socialize with so many people in a subpar location that is the problem.

I’ve crashed before like this, but I’ve never previously done a postmortem that takes my autism into account. This is the first time that I link the two. As I mentioned above, there is an involuntary aspect to my unmasking, and perhaps the fact that I have a harder time with social events is part of this involuntary unmasking.

What should I have done differently to avoid crashing? Maybe I shouldn’t have gone at all. For sure, if I had not gone, I wouldn’t have crashed. Still, I like to see people. So what should I have done at the event to avoid crashing. Maybe I should have taken one of the small booths to avoid the crowd. Also, at some point, there was a little voice in my head asking whether I should go back home early. I decided to ignore it, but maybe I should have listened to it.

I felt fine during the event, and I’m sure I appeared mostly fine to other people. This is the irony, if you will, of autism. You appear fine, but your nervous system is in overdrive, trying to process everything happening around you. It is later that you have to pay for the time that your nervous system was in overdrive.

Don’t get me wrong. I was glad to be there, but I’m trying to figure out how to have my fun without paying for it dearly afterwards. Being exhausted like I was after one hour and thirty minutes of socializing is not normal. How can I avoid this cost? That’s what I’m trying to figure out. I know that some of it is on me and my ability to listen to my own needs.

Now, I know that some of my neurodivergent siblings have an even harder time than I do with socializing. When you design events without taking our needs into account, you are effectively excluding us. I know that you are not deciding that autistic people are not welcome. However, through self-selection, autistic people decide to not go, and your community is the poorer for it.

I have an event today too. This one is for autistic people, and it is held in a conference room in a library. It will easily last twice as long as the event yesterday, but I expect to come out of it without crashing.

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https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/06/09/when-being-social-destroys-you/

60,000 expected for 33rd #annual #BlackPrideFestival in #WashingtonDC this weekend

The Annual Celebration includes #educational #workshops, #socialevents, more.

#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #WashingtonDC #BlackPride #Pride #Representation #Culture #BlackMastodon

https://www.washingtonblade.com/2024/05/22/black-pride-events-2024/

Double the Joy: Celebrating Purim and Holi in One Vibrant Festival in #Israel

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Did you know, our social space is available for hire during the days and evenings when the bar isn't open?

If you'd like to book your place on any of the events or are interested in hiring the space to host your own event or party, get in touch through https://linktr.ee/bruhaha.beer

#craftworkshops #bristolart #catknight #socialspace #communityspace #localart #localevents #socialevents #BS4 #Totterdown

Here's what we have coming up in the next few weeks...

"Who can guess this pig's favorite AC/DC song?"

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#ACDC #HighSociety #SocialEvents #Charity #DoubleEntendre #HumorousLyrics

Conferences are more than just talks. Social events are as important!

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#GoLab is gladly remembered also for its Social Events, where the features of Italian taste we're best known for (enjoying life, leisure, food and drinks) find their home ground. 🍷🪩
Please come back to check what we've planned for this edition!

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